Praying Together Made All the Difference! – By Sarah Lynn

We always had a strong Christ-centered marriage. We prayed together, had devotions together, and worked together closely in ministry. Then we made the decision to adopt a group of siblings. As to be expected, our couple time was drastically reduced.

For awhile, after so many strong years of marriage, we were on auto-pilot and things seemed to be okay. Gradually, however, with little time to pray together, small things, which would have never been a problem before, began to eat away at our marriage. When I tried to talk about this, my husband would get defensive. As a result I began to feel more and more isolated and discouraged.

Finally, after praying about our relationship for a time, I realized I needed to stop asking God to change my husband, and I just needed to let God have full control of me. At this time I began that God would touch him, be with him, lead him, and perhaps most importantly, that God would make me into the wife I needed to be.

After a few weeks of praying like this, we went to a marriage seminar that our church was hosting. Interestingly, one of the things they shared was that to have a happy marriage spouses should pray together.

The next morning as I was having my quiet time, my husband came up and we started talking and he suggested that we start praying together again as a couple.  I couldn’t believe it as this was what I’d been praying for.

From that moment on, things began to improve. We are now parenting better, our relationship is better, and life is better because we are communicating better. And I know this is all because of our praying together.  I just have to keep asking God to change me daily, and I leave my husband up to God.

Recently we were having a moment with one of our kids and my husband was getting frustrated. Normally, I would have glared at him or said something trying to diffuse the situation, but this time I just turned around and started praying.  And just like that the tension was over. My husband calmed down, made things right, and next thing you know we are all in tears and loving on each other. Truly God hears and answers our prayers!

Sarah Lynn is a pastor’s wife who writes anonymously under a pseudonym.

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  • Merle B. Platel

    The trite and cliche'”A family that prays together, stays together”, has been proven true once again. It is now mor. Keep e than ever that we need to pray in and outside of a marriage relationship. As a church, we need to pray for the leading and guidance of the Holy Spirit in every aspect of our life. When Christ is the center and focus of our ( prayer) life, the enemy of our souls will find it difficult to discourage,and/or break any earthly relationship we have Keep focusing and looking up to Christ, the “Author and Finisher of our faith”!.

    • Catecha Francis

      Amen my sister!

  • Kayreen kufa

    I look forward to this every Sunday.
    What a powerful testimony of the power of prayer.
    As a wife I can testify to this.
    Thank you to all who prayed for my friend Easther ‘s Mother.
    She is recovering in Zimbabwe. Praise be to our God.
    Blessings for a new week.

  • Derek Morris

    Thanks for the important reminder to pray together as a couple.
    My wife and I often pray while we walk.
    The LORD says, “Call to Me, and I will answer you and show you great and mighty things which you do not know.” Jer 33:3
    And the apostle Paul gives this counsel: “Continue earnestly in prayer, being watchful, with thanksgiving.” Col 4:2
    When we pray in Jesus’ name, miracles happen. God will surely work in us and through us in life-changing ways. Praise His holy name!

    • Catecha Francis

      Amen Pastor Morris! I can attest to the power of prayer. Just recently I experienced God responding positively to a matter that was causing me some anxiety. I sought His direction, and want do you know, my prayer was answered. God truly hears and answers prayers.

      As we pray as couples, our marriages will be strengthened.

    • Jeanette

      Some of my most precious memories are when my late husband and I prayed as we walked together. Praising God as I see some of those prayers being answered now!

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  • Desiree

    Thank you for sharing your prayer life experience,I too long for such a prayer life,what an experience that would be. By faith I am claiming it and look forward to sharing my experience soon. We serve a GREAT and MIGHTY GOD.

    • Koros Hillary

      Amen. God shall surely visit you. Keep trusting in Him.

  • cheries

    My husband is not an Adventist but I too started praying for God to change me instead of always praying for God to change him! And miracles have started happening in our marriage!

    • Koros Hillary

      Amen Sister Cheries. God who is bigger than all our problems and with infinite love and compassion more than a tender loving mother will reveal Himself in your marriage. Keep trusting Him.

  • Esther

    Thank you for sharing what God is able to do. Years ago I was praying and asking God to change my husband, but the Holy Spirit impressed me to pray and ask God to work on me. My prayer changed, and I started praying that God would change me. Well, God changed me and my husband and transformed our marriage.

  • Annette Alleyne

    Thanks for the reminder that prayer changes things. I am currently praying for a change of heart for my nephew. As a child he was very mission minded and would always contend for the faith. After a serious bout of illness, during which he called on God for help, he is now going through a period of neglecting God in his devotion and church attendance. He has to be reminded about doing both. I know he faces the challenges of being a young teenager but I am asking that you help me to pray for him.

    • Erpidia Mercado

      Will keep him in prayer. Trust and obey for our God is Mighty. Have a blessed day.

  • Erpidia Mercado

    Amen. As we place ourselves and fears in God’s hands miracles happen. My mother prayed thirty years for my dad to come to the Lord and there was joy as we saw him go into baptismal waters. Praise God for answered prayer. I also pray with my husband for our marriage to be strong and daughters to be stronger in their faith. God is merciful. Have a blessed week.

  • Gloria Mosha-Onchiri

    Amen. Prayer indeed changes things.Thank you for sharing your testimony. Most of the time we want God to change our spouse but you righly said we should ask God to change us first then the rest will follow. This week on my devotions I will focus on asking God to work on me and make me a better and prayeful wife and mother.Please pray for mr.These devotions do remind us of important aspects of our lives which we sometimes forget due to the busyness of 21st century life.

    • Thembie Mapingire

      Very true sis. Amen

  • aaw2aah

    Thank you for this testimony, I needed to read it this morning. I’ve been ambivalent about praying for my spouse and my marriage. I asked God to change me and he has, but I need to be more fervent in prayer by asking him to give me the desire of my heart which is for us to pray together.

  • Akudo

    Hallelujah! A praying Christian is a lively one. Thank God for Intervening when He did showing that prayer conquers all. There are so many marriages hitting the rock daily, help them pray together Lord and see the need to ask to be changed as supposed so that peace takes its rightful place. Amen & Amen.

  • Stanley

    Pray for my wife Diana that GOD will heal her illness.

    • Kayreen kufa

      Am praying for you

  • Stanley

    Pray that I will find a Job.

  • Keresi Oski

    Thank you for this commentary. It came to me at just the right moment. It also reminded me that I can not change others but I can certainly change myself. And I praise God for the timely reminder to continue in prayer and never stop praying. As I go through a storm in life now, I thank Almighty God for sending this blog to me to remind me not to give up in praying.

  • Mavhoro Tawona

    Amen and Amen. The more you pray with your spouse the stronger your marriage will be. Most of the people find it easy to go and pray with the pastors as individual, pray in public, in a church service or bible study but find it so hard to pray with their spouses. Whoso findeth a wife wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord. Proverbs 18.22 and Psalms 133.1-3

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  • Omobonike Sessou

    Yes, I perfectly believe that prayer is the answer to all our problems. God answers as we call upon Him in sincerity. Let us not relent in intercessory Prayer. Have a blessed week.