Jump to Prayer FocusBible Passage for Meditation: Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
Key Verses: “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. . . . And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:9, 12
I believe we make two life-altering choices in life. These choices not only affect our eternal destiny but also that of others. The first choice is WHOM we will serve (the God of heaven or the god of this world). The second choice is with whom we will link our life destiny—in other words, whom we will marry.
Before my husband and I met, we were both very involved in our own ministries—I in prayer ministry and he in Bible study leadership and managing a publishing house. As well as being busy, we were also both quite independent.
So when we began to consider the possibility of a relationship, one of the first questions we asked ourselves was this: Would we be more effective working for the Lord together or apart? If we married, could we be united in our ministry?
From the very beginning, we decided that we would continue our relationship only if we could work in unity and do more for the Lord as a team than we could separately. How could we make such a firm decision? It’s because we had both decided, long before we met, that honoring God and doing His work is more important than having a spouse. After all, marriage is a temporary blessing, but what really counts is saving souls for eternity.
In Adventist Home, when referring to the choice of a life companion, Ellen White writes, “Weigh every sentiment, and watch every development of character in the one with whom you think to link your life destiny. . . . Let the questions be raised, Will this union help me heavenward? Will it increase my love for God? And will it enlarge my sphere of usefulness in this life?” (p. 45).
So we began asking God for opportunities to serve together to see each other’s character and to know if we could work together effectively and in unity. With time and prayer, it became evident that God was definitely leading us to work together as husband and wife, so we moved forward.
It’s been one year now since we were married. Of course, we have had many adjustments to make. Each one of us has had to give up things in order to accommodate the other and work together effectively. But as we continue to humbly yield to God and to each other, God has given us such a sweet love and unity together. And what a blessing it has been to share life and ministry with someone who has the same goals and the same desires to serve and honor God. It is worth giving up everything of self, every roadblock, to experience this unity.
While we desire to see unity in the church, this unity needs to start in the home. Ellen White writes, “The first work of Christians is to be united in the family. Then the work is to extend to their neighbors nigh and afar off” (Adventist Home, p. 37).
And as families are united in their work for God, then the church of God can work unitedly to accomplish its great commission. “The most convincing argument we can give to the world of Christ’s mission is to be found in perfect unity. . . . In proportion to our unity with Christ will be our power to save souls” (Our High Calling, p. 170).
Wow! Let us pray for that unity so we can experience that power. That’s the whole reason for living!
Heart Prayer Challenge:
Dear Heavenly Father, we thank You that Your Holy Spirit is able to transform our hearts and help us put aside selfishness, pride, and anything that hinders us from working in unity as husband and wife. We thank You that You will also help us do the same as a church and that the mission You’ve given us can be accomplished in power. Thank You for the examples throughout Your Word of those who worked in unity—especially Your disciples after Pentecost, who were able to reach the entire world. This is what we pray for again today! Help us to humble our hearts and let go of whatever hinders us from becoming one in You. In Jesus’ name, Amen.